The posts are out – 2019 sucked, I’m going to make 2020 the best year that walked the face of the planet.
And I hope that 2020 is the best year yet for you!
However, in order to make that happen there needs to be more than just setting goals, making a vision board and hoping that you will keep your resolutions.
When you incorporate how you are thinking about yourself and what you deserve, then you will work to make those changes.
Here are 5 ways you can make 2020 your year –
Start where you are – You are where you are right now. Don’t beat yourself up over what has happened before. Maybe 2019 wasn’t your year. Maybe 2018 wasn’t either. Now you have decided that 2020 is your year!
Start the year off by accepting that this is where you start.. Maybe in the past you haven’t done the things you said you were going to.
Now is the time to let that s*** go. You can’t change what you have or have not done in the past.
All you can do is start from today and make each day a little bit better. Flip the page in your book, start a new chapter and know that today is new starting point.
Figure out your needs – When you know what is going to make you happy, you are able to go out and get it. No more going along with people just to make them happy.
No one can give you what you need unless you know what that is. As a people-pleaser you may be used to doing everything for everybody else and putting everybody’s needs first.
That has led to you having no idea what you really like, want or need (aside from to stop doing everything for everyone else).
Now is the time to dig into your values, who you want to be and your likes and dislikes so you are able to tell people exactly what it is that is going to help make you happy.
You might have a tendency to think that setting boundaries with the people you love is a negative. This could not be farther from the truth.
Having boundaries lets people know what you will accept and what you will not accept. It protects you from giving too much.
Boundaries help you teach people how to treat you. By having boundaries you always know where you stand which helps increase your self confidence.
Let yourself be important too – You are amazing and deserve to share all of yourself with the world.
All these things you have been doing for other people has been wonderful and fabulous and has gotten you to where you are now. But that is over.
Now is the time for you to start living by also taking yourself into consideration. Now is the time for you to recognize that you are also important. This means giving yourself permission to be important and recognize it is OK to take (and make) time to do what you need to do for you.
Communicate your needs – Learn how to tell people what you need so that you are heard.
All the above lead up to you getting to tell people what you want, need, what will make you happy and what your boundaries are. This doesn’t mean dumping a whole list of new ways they should behave around you in their laps. Communicating your needs means being able to tell people (sometimes repeatedly) that this is what you expect and this is how you are using your values to live your life.
When you accept that you where you are right now you give yourself permission to let go of past mistakes. You can then figure out what it is that you need to make you happy. Then you set boundaries around what you will and will not accept from other people. This leads to you feeling important and believing you are also worthy of your time and love. Then it becomes easy to communicate with others about what you need in your life.