Is it possible to go from doing all.the.things for others
to confidently asking for what you want,
saying no and
stop needlessly apologizing
without feeling guilty?
You want to…
be able to say no to requests from others.
stop apologizing for things that aren’t your fault.
have time for yourself.
not feel guilty when you do the above.
You have been told that you should just stop doing all.the.things, find time for self-care and not to feel bad doing for yourself.
But you don’t want others to think you are selfish.
You are so busy, you don’t have the time for that ‘relaxing’ bubble bath.
You feel guilty when you aren’t taking care of everyone else’s needs.
You try to stop saying ‘yes’ to every request.
You read blogs on ways to say no.
You try to ignore the shame you feel when you can’t do something for someone.
You think that some day you will have time for yourself when you finish ‘just this one thing’.
Yet you fail miserably…
You have the words so say no, but feel too uncomfortable to use them.
You feel so bad saying no that you eventually give in.
Finishing ‘just this one thing’ only leads ‘two more things’.
You try yet again…
You practice your confidence affirmations in the mirror.
You try to convince yourself that doing all.the.things for others isn’t what is stressing you out.
You try to believe that others who aren’t stressed just don’t have the responsibilities you do.
And you just want to give up trying, because obviously everyone else knows something you don’t.
As you are trying to get everything ready for tomorrow, way past when you should be asleep, you wonder
What is it that you are missing?
How can you stop this cycle of madness of taking on too much for everyone else?
When will you ever not feel so stressed out?
Will you ever be able say no without feeling so guilty?
Are tucked up in their beds fast asleep
Saying no to requests that don’t fit in with their time and energy.
Aren’t apologizing for every little thing that goes wrong.
Don’t feel guilty taking time for themselves.
You don’t need to feel this way anymore.
I have developed a system that takes away –
The need to apologize for everything that doesn’t make others happy.
The problem of feeling like you don’t deserve to say no.
The struggle with feeling guilty about taking time for you.
Boldness Bootcamp takes you from doing all.the.things for others to confidently asking for what you want, saying no and stop needlessly apologizing without feeling guilty.
Why should you give a rat’s patoot what I say?
Hi, I’m Dr. Jac
As a reformed ‘good girl’, I am passionate about the need for women to stop being so damn nice and give themselves permission to live the life they want.
I am the founder of the Boldness Academy where confidence and assertiveness coaching come together to help smart, successful women gain the skills to speak their mind, say no and stop worrying what people think about them - without feeling guilty. I use my background as a psychologist plus the science of positive psychology to help others morph from people-pleaser to boldness badass.
When I find a bit of down time you will find me discussing the oddities of life with my husband and kiddos or reading mystery books with a glass of red wine surrounded by our 5 animals and any foster dogs we may have. If you are dying to know a little more about me find out more here.
I know what you are thinking…
This won’t work for me because –
I feel so guilty when I say no.
I don’t want to come across as (another name for) a donkey.
Taking care of people is what I do.
I’ve tried so many times, I should just suffer in silence.
How is this any different from the advice I have already gotten about “just be confident in yourself”.
Let me show you how this is different…
|First of it’s kind for people who still want to be kind.||“One size fits all.”|
|Based on the science of change.||“I did it so you can do it too.”|
|Small, easy steps.||Overwhelming|
This is what is included in this life changing program:
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